Ways to be More Outgoing

If you are someone who is not that social and has a shy personality, there are times you might wish that you could be more spoken and has better communication skills. You can meet new people, be less afraid, and enjoy life fuller because you won't be missing out on all the opportunities life has to offer. You might even create your own.

Here are some tips to get you out of your shell!

1) Start Off Small
People who love talking didn't develop their skill overnight. They had years of practice with the people they are comfortable with. Often times, you will realize that there are some things you want to but can't do even with those that are closest to you. An example of this would be joking around with your partner, or teasing your siblings. Start off there, and then you can grow to finding some people that share similar interest as you. Eventually, you will be better at talking to people, but its not an quick process.

2)Change Your Focus
Shy people often enter a social situation focusing on themselves. How will people think of me? Is there something I could do? How do I act? What do I say? Instead of thinking all this, try to think of things that you wonder about the people you talk to. Try to learn something from them, their experiences and stories. Wonder about what their jobs are, their family, etc. Everyone is different and is unique. See what you can learn every time you have a conversation.

3) Say Yes More Often
There are certain times when you want to say no to an opportunity because you don't feel comfortable attending it. The reason of this may be you feel that you are not allowed to leave the situation at your own free will. If you attend a party, you can't leave 10 minutes after if you want to. This assumption however is completely false. You are in charge of yourself, and your actions. If you don't like something you are able to say no, and get out whenever you like. But at least give it your best shot before shooting it down. You never know, maybe at one of the events you can meet a new friend, that's one more person you connected with!

4)Challenge Yourself Everyday
Talk to a stranger everyday. It can be as simple as asking for the time, or asking for directions. As long as you are in fear of saying something, do it. Afterwords you would feel much more accomplished. Over time, you will feel more confident talking and starting a conversation.

Good luck everyone!

You are NOT Alone!!