Tips for BETTER Decision Making

1)Trust Experience
Past events and stories really make a difference when trying to make  decisions, especially important ones. A good suggestion would be to get a few different opinions from people that you know. They could be family or friends. Take the information you gathered into thought, and make the final decision.

2)View Different Perspectives 
Often when making decisions, we most likely only view it from 2 perspectives: yours, and the other parties. This time, think outside the box, think about it from a friend's, families, societies, any other parties that it may affect even in the slightest way. This may help you clear more up in your final step.

3)Use Evidence 
Evidence can be what you've already known, seen, heard, or facts. If you gather them all together, the decision may be crystal clear right away. But of course depending on the decision, also have your own judgments.

4)Let Go
Don't live in your mistakes. They happen for a reason. Don't live in your past, it will only ruin how you can improve and enjoy life. This affects a lot of people's pace when it comes to making a decision. You might be afraid of getting hurt, making the same mistake, taking a risk, you might fear it now, whatever it is, let it go. Stay in the moment, if it is not happening right now, don't let it affect you ever again. Learn from it and move on.

5)Be Honest With Yourself 
Stay true to yourself when making a decision. If you feel that something is not the right choice for the situation you are in, don't make it. Do not let outside influences pressure you, even those that you care for and is close to. Put yourself first because you are the one living your decision, it will change your life the most and no one else. Don't make a decision just to please others and make others happy, unless it is also what you want as well.

6)Pros and Cons 
Take some time and write down the pros and cons of your options. Weigh on which one is more important to you and make it upon that.

7)Just Make a Decision
Don't take too long to make a decision because if you wait, you might lose the opportunity as a whole. Even if you make the wrong decision, after a while you can still change it because most decisions and choices are not permanent. You will learn things from your choice and change later. Its better than not making any decision and staying in the same place.

Happy decision making!

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The Positives of Rejection

Many people, including myself is scared of rejection. Being afraid will not do us any good, but only allow us to lose great opportunities that we should have grabbed onto.

How many times in your life did you want to go for something, such as asking out a date or getting to  know a stranger, but didn't make a move because you are afraid of them ignoring you and saying no?

So after you have not done it, how did you feel? You probably felt sad, regretful, and not so brave, asking yourself why you didn't take the chance.

Now of course, if you try and face rejection, there is a chance of it not turning out so well, but what if it did? What if it was a wonderful or fulfilling experience? Even if the outcome isn't what you've expected, you can feel satisfied knowing you've tried and happy that you took the chance.

Sometimes, rejection and the unknown can help us grow far more than being afraid. In the end, you've got nothing to lose, you can gain something out of the chance you took, whatever the result may be.

1) You Took Action 
You did it. Faced a fear. Instead of being in your head and thinking of the a million things that could have happen, you went for it. Now you know the actual result, good or bad. If its good, you are now super glad you've pushed yourself and gain whatever it is that you want, in addition to the fact that the next time you do something similar you won't be as scared. If the result was bad, yes you will be sad for a while, but you will still be smiling thinking that you overcame one of your fears. Nothing major happened to you. You are still breathing and alive, and got a little wiser too.

2) Know Next Steps 
After knowing the result and saving yourself from wondering, you will know what to do next. It can either be celebrating that you've got what you wanted, or being sad for a while but spending quality alone time or with family/friends to gain support.

3)Do the Next Thing
You get to move on from this thing that's been bothering you forever and onto a new thing. It can be something similar or totally different. You do not need to spend more time thinking, wondering and wasting energy on this anymore. MOVING ON, there is always more to life.

4) Reminder 
Being rejected also tells us that we are not perfect and we can't please everyone or fill every requirement. But that's okay because there are always room for improvement to a better self!

5) Reevaluate Ourselves 
Rejection is also a time for us to reconnect with ourselves and see if we did anything wrong. This will help us better understand ourselves, what we want, rethink about our goals, and benefit us in the long run.

Treat every rejection as a way to grow and explore rather than something we should be in fear of. You will always learn and find out new things. We will sure miss far more amazing things if we spend the time being afraid rather than facing it head on and enjoy it in the process.

Choose between fear and regret. Act upon the greater feeling.

Stay strong and face rejection!